A refined simplicity is the characteristic of all high bred deportment, in every country, and a considerate humanity should be the aim of all beneath it.

James Fenimore Cooper (1789-1851)

too big make it simple...

This quote is extracted from the book "The American democrat" or, hints on the social and civic relations of the United States of America (1838) Page 151
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ON DEPORTMENT (Page 151)

Much of the pleasure of social communication depends on the laws of deportment. Deportment may be divided into that, which, by marking refinement and polish, is termed breeding; and that, which, though less distinguished for finesse and finish, denoting a sense of civility and respect, is usually termed manners. The first can only be expected in men and women of the world, or those who are properly styled gentlemen and Ladies; while an absence of the last is a proof of vulgarity and coarseness, that every citizen of a free state should be desirous of avoiding. Breeding is always pleasant, though often arbitrary in its rules ; but manners are indispensable to civilization. It is just as unreasonable to expect high breeding in any but those who are trained to it, from youth upward, as it would be to expect learning without education; but a tone of manners, that shall mark equally self-respect and a proper regard for others, is as easily acquired as reading and writing.
The gentleman should aim at a standard of deportment that is refined by sentiment and taste, without the sickliness of overstrained feelings ; and those be- Health him in condition, at a manly humanity, that shall not pretend to distinctions the party does not comprehend, while it carefully respects all the commoner observances of civilized intercourse.
A refined simplicity is the characteristic of all high bred deportment, in every country, and a considerate humanity should be the aim of all beneath it.




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"Considerate humanity..." should be aimed at with practicing fairness in any deportment, high and low. But fairness is all in the eye of the beholder.

Next to a skewed sense of fairness, lack of courtesy and style are the most common causes of stress in our society.
Envy, greed, domination...many other vices, would not be possible if only we behaved in a courteous manner--respectful of others.
Then there is style, grace being what makes it an excellent comportment, so how could any injustice to others exist in its presence?