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money143
Posted: Thursday, October 20, 2016 5:27:50 PM

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Hi everyone, I would like to know does everyone have secret thoughts? If yes, what is your idea of secret thoughts? Are they helpful or destructible?

Thanks in advance.
Blodybeef
Posted: Friday, October 21, 2016 12:49:47 AM

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Life would be very simple and easy without people having secret thoughts. But if you knew a person well enough, you'd be guessing their secret thoughts, sometimes correctly.

Even toddlers have secret thoughts. They spill them out somehow, and parents do understand them even from the way their children stands.
Shulamit
Posted: Sunday, October 23, 2016 4:55:08 PM

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Secret thoughts are part of what makes us human, if I am understanding your definition of a secret thought.

I can only speak for myself, but my brain isn't ever running on idle. I have thoughts going through my head all the time. Even when I'm asleep, the wheels and the gears are spinning and connecting. Secret thoughts, as opposed to that unspoken stream of cognitive (and quasi-cognitive) thinking, are usually fairly well formed thoughts, ideas, visions, et al., that we do not share with others. That's sort of the definition of secret.

There are a lot of reasons not to share them. Sometimes they are embarrassing, sometimes, we don't even know where they come from, as they've launched themselves in our minds unbidden, and we don't want even to be near them. Some of them are ugly, or don't subscribe to our own moral and ethical codes, but are our passing thoughts, nonetheless. Frequently, or at least for me, the germ of ideas, unformed logical or inspirational sequences, are not to be shared because they're not finished yet and I don't want to break my uninterrupted process. Another reason would be that we'd like to disown the secret thoughts and not be identified with them. I'm sure there are more reasons.

When you ask if they are helpful, of course my answer would be, yes. Even if they are those awful passing thoughts that arrive from Lord-only-knows where and deeply disturb us, they are at least instructive in that they remind us of who we are by jarring us with who we are not. Many secret thoughts are wonderful and just aren't to be shared. We all have private selves (OR, note to my family of origin: we should be allowed to have private selves).

The last word of that last sentence of yours is maybe a typo or a word used incorrectly? "Destructible", means capable of being destroyed. Did you mean that? If you did, I don't think you can destroy a thought, though if you leave them alone and don't worry them a lot, they fade and disappear. But if you meant, "destructive," (destroys things), as I said, in my opinion, secret thoughts don't have to be destructive at all.
money143
Posted: Thursday, October 27, 2016 6:35:52 PM

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Hi Shulamit,

Thanks for your amazing response.

I read a quote somewhere it said 'you are your secret thoughts', hence the curiosity.

Yes and sorry about the typo I meant to say destructive thoughts (if they have capabilities to destroy things) and yes they do have in my opinion, because thoughts become things unless you learn to control them through meditation.
Shulamit
Posted: Thursday, November 3, 2016 2:21:46 AM

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Thank you emensely for your, "Thank you".

I agree completely that secret thoughts can be destructive.

Do you know that inner critic, the one that derides you, chastises you for your behavior, beats you about the heart and soul for your awful awful inexcusable inadequacies, sneers at your attempts, drills you for your failures and dismisses your successes? Yes, that inner voice, the harping kamikazi who interrupts your inspirations, your plans and decisions with, "You're wrong! You're not good enough to do that, and besides, no one likes you!" And then it keeps reminding you about all your humiliating defeats.

Sounds like I'm all too familiar with that nasty little voice, doesn't it.

To one extent or another, we all have inner voices. Some of them are helpful guides,whispering sages, a conscience who acts as a best friend. Yeah, but SOME of those inner voices can be life crushing villains. We don't tell others about those secret thoughts. Those are as self-destructive as secret thoughts can get.

So, yes, I agree with you. (Now I'd best shove that thing back in its cell).
Acd4u
Posted: Monday, November 6, 2017 5:38:58 AM

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Shhh Hello People
If you could see my (SECRET THOUGHTS)!!
Perhaps you would run awayPray
TheParser
Posted: Monday, November 6, 2017 8:52:37 AM
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money143 wrote:
I would like to know does everyone have secret thoughts?




In my humble opinion, the answer is OF COURSE.

That is why human beings are very dangerous creatures.

You never know what a person is thinking.

Sometimes a smiling person is thinking about how he can do something bad to you.

Sometimes a non-smiling person is thinking about how he can do something good for you.

The lesson: Approach every single human being with caution. Be polite but always cautious. You never know what lurks in the minds of people. (Think of those "friends" of yours who disappointed you; think of all those people who got divorced when they discovered what their spouse was really like, etc.)

Oh, and don't forget: human beings are notorious liars and hypocrites.
Romany
Posted: Monday, November 6, 2017 10:36:15 AM
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In direct opposition to the Parsar, I have found human beings, all over the world, differ very little. I should hate to go through life scared and afraid of my fellow passenger on this Voyage of Life. I expect, with all the travelling and teaching and performing and stuff I do, I have met, lived with,taught, worked beside,talked to, become friendly with thousands of people in my life so far. I've only ever met 2 people, ever, who were evil.

So I actually rejoice in the fact that getting to know someone will lead to them sharing some of those private thoughts, dreams, ideals...and sometimes absolutely crazy things we all have going through our minds.

We all put on a bit of a mask in public. But the excitement and joy one gets from making friends is getting to know the *REAL* person beneath the mask - the one who has all the crazy ideas and private thoughts - and sharing the 'You' that is also not often on public display!.

To me, the world is a wonderful, exciting place to be - and the people in it, an old cliche used to state, are merely friends you haven't met yet. (Except for the liars and hypocrites! But then, have only ever come across a handful of those, too.)
almo 1
Posted: Monday, November 6, 2017 11:35:45 AM
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* Not so secret - perhaps




Ben10G
Posted: Wednesday, November 22, 2017 3:55:17 AM

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THe Moment I read the Word Secret. I thought about my Little Diary onto which I write almost everything I am dealing on a daily basis. So Yes My private little diary is my Secret Words.
Stefano Gomez
Posted: Sunday, May 23, 2021 9:15:05 PM

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People have them, everyone has them. People like to believe they are super interesting and that their secret thoughts would probably make a big change if they were revealed, but that's what we tell ourselves just so we don't feel pathetic when our deepest desire is a mediocre sexual fetiche or a weird desire for any non sexual thing.

Obviously, there are people that have thoughts that could endanger another person or even themselves, and that's ok too.

Just try to live life without feeling that you must never show your thoughts because you'll become a prisoner of yourself.

Take care.
FounDit
Posted: Monday, May 24, 2021 11:50:49 AM

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money143 wrote:
Hi Shulamit,

Thanks for your amazing response.

I read a quote somewhere it said 'you are your secret thoughts', hence the curiosity.

Yes and sorry about the typo I meant to say destructive thoughts (if they have capabilities to destroy things) and yes they do have in my opinion, because thoughts become things unless you learn to control them through meditation.


There is an old proverb that says:

"For as he thinketh in his heart, so is he".

The thoughts we most often focus our attention on can easily become the ink that colors our spirit, our mind. It becomes necessary, therefore, to be careful about how much we allow our secret thoughts to influence our thinking.

We all likely have destructive, selfish, thoughts, but to dwell on those allows them to become us, the person who lives out those kinds of thoughts. We become the things we focus on.

Those kinds of thoughts, when they come to me, are examined as to why they have occurred, what stimulated them, but afterward, are simply allowed to float away like a mist, or a cloud. I recognize them, understand them, but don't hold on to them.

Some secret thoughts are very pleasurable, and I often enjoy those, but they are just thoughts, and as such, are again allowed to drift away without holding on to them too tightly.

Pleasant thoughts produce a pleasant personality and a pleasant life. Since life has enough problems each day, why create more? Therefore, I tend to focus on pleasant thoughts and allow negative thoughts to drift away.

ChillinDrina
Posted: Wednesday, June 2, 2021 7:30:52 AM

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Watch your thoughts, they become your words
Watch your words, they become actions
Watch your actions, they become habits
Watch your habits, they become character
Watch your character, they become destiny.
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