The Free Dictionary  
mailing list For webmasters
Welcome Guest Forum Search | Active Topics | Members

It is best to love wisely, no doubt; but to love foolishly is better than not to be able to love at all. Options
Daemon
Posted: Friday, May 9, 2014 12:00:00 AM
Rank: Advanced Member

Joined: 3/7/2009
Posts: 27,974
Neurons: 83,100
Location: Inside Farlex computers
It is best to love wisely, no doubt; but to love foolishly is better than not to be able to love at all.

William Makepeace Thackeray (1811-1863)
Professor
Posted: Saturday, May 10, 2014 3:24:42 AM

Rank: Advanced Member

Joined: 9/9/2009
Posts: 227
Neurons: 42,087
Location: Mesa, Arizona, United States
Daemon wrote:
It is best to love wisely, no doubt; but to love foolishly is better than not to be able to love at all.

William Makepeace Thackeray (1811-1863)


'Tis better to have loved and lost
Than never to have loved at all. Alfred

"You reveal your character by what you do with what you have."
Bully_rus
Posted: Saturday, May 10, 2014 4:43:01 AM
Rank: Advanced Member

Joined: 3/26/2013
Posts: 2,860
Neurons: 231,900
Location: Minsk, Minskaya Voblasts', Belarus
Daemon wrote:
It is best to love wisely, no doubt; but to love foolishly is better than not to be able to love at all.

William Makepeace Thackeray (1811-1863)


It's best when love grows wise, after all foolishness is gone or bubbled out. It's worst - disprized love, if love at all.
Henry Martinez
Posted: Saturday, May 10, 2014 5:45:12 AM

Rank: Member

Joined: 2/16/2014
Posts: 42
Neurons: 1,811
Is it better to love or be loved? Usually one person loves more or less than the other. Maybe a little or maybe a lot. Also quite often the roles are switched as time goes on. People grow tired of being unappreciated or underappreciated and withdraw emotionally which can panic the one who is accustomed to being loved the most. Most will love unwisely at some period in time and it is a terrible shame that has become commonplace. Most will survive and overcome but the pain is great and lasts a very long time. But not loving at all is losing a tremendously important part of existing. It is complicated to say the least, but absolutely worthwhile.

Notherethere
mirilli
Posted: Saturday, May 10, 2014 5:56:41 AM

Rank: Advanced Member

Joined: 9/28/2013
Posts: 201
Neurons: 1,490,888
Location: Gubbio, Umbria, Italy
Daemon wrote:
It is best to love wisely, no doubt; but to love foolishly is better than not to be able to love at all.

William Makepeace Thackeray (1811-1863)


Too wisely for being true.
shahidmost
Posted: Saturday, May 10, 2014 7:03:21 AM

Rank: Advanced Member

Joined: 7/1/2013
Posts: 522
Neurons: 57,133
Location: Birmingham, England, United Kingdom
***
This is like an encouragement, an assurance, or a piece of advice. This is perhaps for ones seeing loving as a risky business, a dangerous pursuit, and a challenge not for the wise to take. The question however is does one ever have a choice? Could someone choose to love or not to love? Where the fact is love will happen first, and then, the one will know? When love is felt in the heart then the wisest thing to do is but to love. The point is then there is no point beating round the bush, but only to go straight ahead and admit, I am in love, and let the rest take care of itself.

They say love shows you the way, and yet say at the same time, love is blind. The common opinion about love, or about the business of loving, therefore remains just as confused as someone who might have fallen in love for the first time. Love, that is always a new experience, is a new life each time. One in one’s entire life might fall in love a thousand times, on thousand different occasions, with a thousand different people, and yet each time, love will feel just as good and new as it was for the first time.

The quote above therefore is perhaps for the ones who are still unaccomplished, still uneducated, the ones who might still see loving as a risky business, a dangerous pursuit, and a challenge not for the wise to take, the ones who might still be standing by the side of the river of love, perhaps not finding enough courage or seeing good enough a reason to jump in, whilst deep down inside yearning and longing to be in love, knowing all that while that without jumping right in they will never be able to get across.


***
moniquester
Posted: Saturday, May 10, 2014 7:26:13 AM

Rank: Advanced Member

Joined: 4/8/2014
Posts: 872
Neurons: 87,227
Location: Saskatoon, Saskatchewan, Canada
Daemon wrote:
It is best to love wisely, no doubt; but to love foolishly is better than not to be able to love at all.

William Makepeace Thackeray (1811-1863)


So what does he mean by "love?" That word is one of the most misused words of all time. Does he mean "strong liking?" Because that is a way one can "love" foolishly. I, personally, do not believe that this is a legitimate use of the term "love."

Does he mean "lust" perhaps? Does he mean sexual attraction? In this instance, his quote makes full sense. But then, use the term "lust" rather than "love." But this confusion has existed forever. Lust can coexist with strong liking, but never with "love." Lust seeks the other as an object of one's own pleasure. It is exploitative in nature.

Real love is not a feeling. It is not self-seeking in any way. It is wanting what is best for another as other. Real love is disinterested. It is solely interested in the welfare of the beloved. It makes no difference if one is wise or foolish in this instance--love wants only what is best for the beloved.

So, I would say, Mr. Thackeray, either reword your premise, or concede that your statement is false as it stands.

Be the change you wish to see in the world!-Gandhi
Pieter_Hove
Posted: Saturday, May 10, 2014 9:18:01 AM

Rank: Advanced Member

Joined: 1/6/2014
Posts: 464
Neurons: 567,039
Location: Schaerbeek, Brussels Capital Region, Belgium
"Usually one person loves more or less than the other. Maybe a little or maybe a lot."
"Does he mean "lust" perhaps? Does he mean sexual attraction?"
"'Tis better to have loved and lost Than never to have loved at all. Alfred"
"It's best when love grows wise, after all foolishness is gone or bubbled out."
"The point is then there is no point beating round the bush, but only to go straight ahead and admit, I am in love, and let the rest take care of itself."

Guys and gals, you've made my Saturday.

Bye,
Flam
monamagda
Posted: Saturday, May 10, 2014 12:45:37 PM

Rank: Advanced Member

Joined: 2/4/2014
Posts: 7,208
Neurons: 5,280,133
Location: Bogotá, Bogota D.C., Colombia
"Love is the Wisdom of the Fool and the Folly of the Wise" (Samuel Johnson)

This quote started me wondering what Samuel Johnson had in mind when he penned his observation. Samuel Johnson was an English author, critic, and lexicographer. He also possessed a great sense of humor as seen in his feeling about cucumbers "A cucumber should be well-sliced, dressed with pepper and vinegar, and then thrown out."

Although this quote is listed as a humorous love quote on many websites, I am not so sure. The first part of the quote " Love is the wisdom of the fool" is really sad. A fool's wisdom is love. Wisdom is what helps us make decisions and if a fool is making his decisions based on love it is bound to get him in trouble. It gives too much importance to love.

The second part of the quote "and the folly of the Wise" Folly is foolishness which gives love too little importance in the wise person's life.

Both are extreme abuses of love, for love should be an integrated part of life. It is only then, we can have a healthy love relationships, whether it is with another person, child, food, drink or money

BY GAYLE HEDRINGTON
WanglerExtraordinaire
Posted: Saturday, May 10, 2014 12:52:55 PM

Rank: Newbie

Joined: 3/28/2014
Posts: 27
Neurons: 17,620
If The love of money is the root of all evil and a fool and his money are soon parted, then perhaps to love foolishly is wisely.
WanglerExtraordinaire
Posted: Saturday, May 10, 2014 12:52:55 PM

Rank: Newbie

Joined: 3/28/2014
Posts: 27
Neurons: 17,620
Anxious
Verbatim
Posted: Saturday, May 10, 2014 2:40:43 PM
Rank: Advanced Member

Joined: 10/3/2012
Posts: 2,116
Neurons: 245,359
Daemon wrote:
It is best to love wisely, no doubt; but to love foolishly is better than not to be able to love at all.

William Makepeace Thackeray (1811-1863)


"The History of Pendennis", Chapter VI deals with immature love--how can that be wise, but is it really foolish, if not wise?--of which consequences
the reader must wait and see. The excerpt is about young Pen's outpouring of platonic love for a woman quite a few years his senior, and a stage actress
for good measure. This is the narrator observing, and remarking: http://www.gutenberg.org/files/7265/7265-h/7265-h.htm#link2HCH0006

""Of course, love, truth, and eternity were produced: and words were tried but found impossible to plumb the tremendous depth of his affection. This speech, we say, is no business of ours. It was most likely not very wise, but what right have we to overhear? Let the poor boy fling out his simple heart at the woman's feet, and deal gently with him. It is best to love wisely, no doubt: but to love foolishly is better than not to be able to love at all. Some of us can't: and are proud of our impotence too. ""

Yes, some of us can't love, wisely or foolishly nor anywhere in between.
capitán
Posted: Saturday, May 10, 2014 2:52:01 PM

Rank: Advanced Member

Joined: 2/18/2013
Posts: 486
Neurons: 23,124
Location: San Salvador, San Salvador, El Salvador
I suppose that you love wisely when you let yourself love after a process of discovering the other person.
And you know her or him, know what to expect and what the risks are.

On the other hand, I suppose that loving foolishly is just to love without holding back at any moment, without knowing the other person.
Then you discover every single detail of the other person that drives you mad and you are already in a relationship.

However, I think that in loving someone,
we are both, fools and wise men and women.
seemo74
Posted: Saturday, May 10, 2014 4:07:29 PM

Rank: Member

Joined: 3/29/2014
Posts: 333
Neurons: 23,588
Location: Cairo, Al Qahirah, Egypt
That is very right .
Dr. Mohammed Albadri
Posted: Saturday, May 10, 2014 4:08:52 PM

Rank: Advanced Member

Joined: 1/6/2014
Posts: 149
Neurons: 76,208
Location: Baghdad, Mayorality of Baghdad, Iraq
Whistle Applause
jcbarros
Posted: Saturday, May 10, 2014 5:50:21 PM

Rank: Advanced Member

Joined: 5/14/2010
Posts: 2,356
Neurons: 9,052
There is no such thing as loving wisely.
ChristineC
Posted: Saturday, May 10, 2014 9:37:51 PM

Rank: Member

Joined: 3/31/2014
Posts: 92
Neurons: 1,492
moniquester wrote:
Daemon wrote:
It is best to love wisely, no doubt; but to love foolishly is better than not to be able to love at all.

William Makepeace Thackeray (1811-1863)


So what does he mean by "love?" That word is one of the most misused words of all time. Does he mean "strong liking?" Because that is a way one can "love" foolishly. I, personally, do not believe that this is a legitimate use of the term "love."

Does he mean "lust" perhaps? Does he mean sexual attraction? In this instance, his quote makes full sense. But then, use the term "lust" rather than "love." But this confusion has existed forever. Lust can coexist with strong liking, but never with "love." Lust seeks the other as an object of one's own pleasure. It is exploitative in nature.

Real love is not a feeling. It is not self-seeking in any way. It is wanting what is best for another as other. Real love is disinterested. It is solely interested in the welfare of the beloved. It makes no difference if one is wise or foolish in this instance--love wants only what is best for the beloved.

So, I would say, Mr. Thackeray, either reword your premise, or concede that your statement is false as it stands.


"Real love is not a feeling." Yes it is!!!
Cpprasad
Posted: Saturday, May 10, 2014 9:42:30 PM

Rank: Newbie

Joined: 3/18/2014
Posts: 35
Neurons: 8,476
Location: Chennai, Tamil Nadu, India
everyone love wisely,everyone has their own style

Cpprasad
Users browsing this topic
Guest


Forum Jump
You cannot post new topics in this forum.
You cannot reply to topics in this forum.
You cannot delete your posts in this forum.
You cannot edit your posts in this forum.
You cannot create polls in this forum.
You cannot vote in polls in this forum.

Main Forum RSS : RSS
Forum Terms and Guidelines | Privacy policy | Copyright © 2008-2019 Farlex, Inc. All rights reserved.