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We love flattery even though we are not deceived by it, because it shows that we are of importance enough to be courted. Options
Daemon
Posted: Tuesday, October 15, 2013 12:00:00 AM
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We love flattery even though we are not deceived by it, because it shows that we are of importance enough to be courted.

Ralph Waldo Emerson (1803-1882)
jcbarros
Posted: Tuesday, October 15, 2013 11:22:33 AM

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... or to be duped.
Bully_rus
Posted: Tuesday, October 15, 2013 11:46:40 AM
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We are not deceived by it but there's always lingering doubt: maybe it's true? Anyway, not all suitors welcomed and not all flattery is an innocent gesture.
ithink140
Posted: Tuesday, October 15, 2013 12:40:07 PM

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I can’t abide flattery. I react very badly to it and see it for what it is. That bounder Caruthers was eulogising me the other day on the golf course. I had just hit a magnificent four iron shot to within an inch of the hole, which meant that after I holed it I would be seven under.

He went over the top in praising me… remarking on my incredible swing, but I knew that and did not need soft soaping.... I saw through it for what it was the truth. Anybody with an ounce of nous can see I have a swing to dream off… tell me something I don’t know.

I don’t care a rat’s arse for praise and wheedling… although I was somewhat mollified when he said that I was the best golfer in the club.

The problem is that when you are as good as I am no amount of flattery measures up. It is a tough life when ones abilities cannot be measured by one’s peers….he needs to brush on his adjectives.

He heaped praise on me and I shut him up after an hour… it was too much… I like to retain a degree of modesty.


'Life is too short to be eaten up by hate.'
capitán
Posted: Tuesday, October 15, 2013 2:14:57 PM

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Daemon wrote:
We love flattery even though we are not deceived by it, because it shows that we are of importance enough to be courted.

Ralph Waldo Emerson (1803-1882)


Well, I can't say everybody loves flattery; I speak for myself when I say that flattery makes me feel uncomfortable. I do not like flattery.
However, I suppose that when it comes from the right person in the right moment, even I feel somewhat at ease, even if only in a slight manner.
MTC
Posted: Tuesday, October 15, 2013 7:15:14 PM
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TELL ME MORE

Better
Buttered
And basted
Blandished
And pasted
Sweetened
And slavered
Honeyed
And savored
Backed up
And built up
Than slighted
And chewed up.

Apocrypha of MTC

Tovarish
Posted: Tuesday, October 15, 2013 7:26:57 PM

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I dont mind a little flattery, you are never too old.

Verbatim
Posted: Tuesday, October 15, 2013 7:56:24 PM
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Daemon wrote:
We love flattery even though we are not deceived by it, because it shows that we are of importance enough to be courted.

Ralph Waldo Emerson (1803-1882)


In other words we love to be courted, we love our importance, but we are not deceived by flattery? Who needs flattery from others then? Think

From Emerson's Essays, Gifts : " Men use to tell us that we love flattery even though we are not deceived by it, because it shows that we are of importance enough to be courted. Something like that pleasure, the flowers give us: what am I to whom these sweet hints are addressed? Fruits are acceptable gifts, because they are the flower of commodities, and admit of fantastic values being attached to them." End quote
He discussed the subject of gifts in a large sense --service and aid to others included-- and thus briefly crossed into flattery (it is sometimes an attribute of gifts, isn't it?)

Only once will flattery come up again and it is just as well : " It is a great happiness to get off without injury and heart-burning from one who has had the ill-luck to be served by you. It is a very onerous business, this of being served, and the debtor naturally wishes to give you a slap. A golden text for these gentlemen is that which I so admire in the Buddhist, who never thanks, and who says, "Do not flatter your benefactors." End quote
Indeed, benefactors and gift givers ought to know better! Their flattery will get them nowhere, least of all the return of it.
http://www.emersoncentral.com/gifts.htm



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