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I am interested in knowing and understanding the world as completely as possible.As part of this I intend to understand the human mind.So how does one go about doing this?Is it possible to completely describe the mind in one given lifetime starting now using science,will philosophy or religion give satisfactory explanations or is going through life the only way to do this...gradually and to the extent that one man can in his lifetime?
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good luck!
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meimeide wrote:I am interested in knowing and understanding the world as completely as possible.As part of this I intend to understand the human mind.So how does one go about doing this?Is it possible to completely describe the mind in one given lifetime starting now using science,will philosophy or religion give satisfactory explanations or is going through life the only way to do this...gradually and to the extent that one man can in his lifetime? I guess that, if it is your mind you want to understand, then yup, you got to live with it for a long, long, time Otherwise, learn/take some general psychology, cook it for a few years in a philosophy cooker to pasteurise it, watch your fellow humans and ask why they do things, do the same thing about your own actions. Then sadly, like me, you will look over your shoulder and realise that you have wasted most of your life thinking, planning ahead and reviewing the past - and you missed the whole fantastic and entertaining show. That's about the best I can do. I, like pedro, wish you luck. "The voice of the majority is no proof of justice." - Schiller
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meimeide I think that since in common with all mankind I don't even know or understand my own mind, you are on a hiding to nothing. Humans are still studying the complexity of grasses in order to understand them,never mind the mind. Explore yes... but understand?
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To understand anything at all you need an idea about truth,––what it is and isn't and how to get it––philosophy is a discourse that can help you with that (keywords: epistemology, empiricism, evidence, science, a priori and a posteriori, brain in a vat). Then to focus on the mind you might read some broad, popular, scientific, philosophical and scientifically philosophical literature (including psychological literature) to get an overview of all the mind-related ideas out there. Then hone in on what interests you and read ever more expert stuff. (Cognitive science is a good term to google.) Lastly: experience and observe things. My bet is that science is going to tell us very much about the mind in the next 100 years but that doesn't quite acquit you of taking an interest in what has been done and said in this area in the past millennia. Though, like intelfam said, you may come to conclude that you've done to much thinking and too little living. Nevertheless: good luck. The opposite of hatred is love; the opposite of tyranny is love; the opposite of censorship is love; the opposite of evil is love; the opposite of politics is love; the opposite of war is love; the opposite of god is love.–– Salman RushdieBroadly speaking, it is held that getting money is good and spending money is bad. Seeing that they are two sides of one transaction, this is absurd; one might as well maintain that keys are good, but keyholes are bad. Whatever merit there may be in the production of goods must be entirely derivative from the advantage to be obtained by consuming them. –Bertrand RussellNever believe a liar. Papa, angry people burn our home.
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meimeide wrote:I am interested in knowing and understanding the world as completely as possible.As part of this I intend to understand the human mind.So how does one go about doing this?Is it possible to completely describe the mind in one given lifetime starting now using science,will philosophy or religion give satisfactory explanations or is going through life the only way to do this...gradually and to the extent that one man can in his lifetime? Excuse me for waxing rhapsodic here, but that is kind of the point.... Probably the first place to start when trying to understand the mind is in trying to understand the brain. The mind and the brain are very different things, but the brain is vital to understanding the mind. How the brain works is important to understanding the way the mind develops and how it functions to interpret the brain's functions. The brain is not unlike a mirror. Reality is what is reflected by the mirror. The mind is where the brain reflects reality, alternatively nourishing it and overloading it. Then learn another language. Language is the primary tool of the mind, and understanding the function of language shows you how the mind processes data. Then read as much poetry as you can. The mind is a machine for processing metaphor into meaning. Poetry is metaphor distilled, and as such the best way to understand the core processes of the mind. How much of this can one person do in a lifetime? Well, that's a really good question. Some more than others, certainly. I don't think one could expect to "finish" in a lifetime.... On the other hand, attempting to understand the mind is a pretty good operative definition for "living a good life" so you'd might as well try.
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Judging by many I meet ( specially the ones in cars ) astronomy is probably the best approach ; a vacuum of empty space inhabited by balls of gas and the occasional lump of dirt.
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meimeide wrote:I am interested in knowing and understanding the world as completely as possible.As part of this I intend to understand the human mind.So how does one go about doing this?Is it possible to completely describe the mind in one given lifetime starting now using science,will philosophy or religion give satisfactory explanations or is going through life the only way to do this...gradually and to the extent that one man can in his lifetime? Hi meimeide, Having joined TFD you are now in a very good position to study the mind, and here are three rules to follow. 1. Do not believe everything your mind tells you. The mind can be very deceptive. 2. Be open-minded but filter out the harmful material that tries to enter. 3. Guard your mind against these four methods of control using the acronym DIMS: D. DOMINATION I. INTIMIDATION M. MANIPULATION S. SEDUCTION For some people the mind is a battlefield, a place where Wrong And Right (WAR) fight for supremacy. A mind that is healthy, wealthy, and wise is of great value. How to achieve this state of mind is our challenge.
Job 33:15 "In a dream, in a vision of the night, When deep sleep falls upon men, In slumberings upon the bed;" Theology 101 "If He doesn't know everything then He isn't God."
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Dreamy wrote: here are three rules to follow.
1. Do not believe everything your mind tells you. The mind can be very deceptive.
2. Be open-minded but filter out the harmful material that tries to enter.
3. Guard your mind against these four methods of control using the acronym DIMS:
D. DOMINATION I. INTIMIDATION M. MANIPULATION S. SEDUCTION
A mind that is healthy, wealthy, and wise is of great value. How to achieve this state of mind is our challenge. Valuable acronym Dreamy - is it your own? 'Cause if it is  I shall use it with due credit to you. Your no. 2 "Be open-minded but filter out the harmful material that tries to enter" gets me thinking. This is really hard to do. Would you be willing to add a (2a)? Something like, "...and ask yourself why you label it harmful ". I only ask because we may fall into a trap in initially labelling something and, having done so, sabotage ourselves from re-examining it later - to see whether the label itself were harmful. Dunno, just thinking of some folk I know who do just that and seem to throw the baby out with the bathwater? "The voice of the majority is no proof of justice." - Schiller
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I agree with you, Intel:- No. 2 is rather difficult.
Apart from the points you brought up about whether or not the things we believe to be harmful are subjective; and thus about our ability to recognise this, there is the question of exactly HOW to apply filters?
For example: the mind chatter in my head, if applied to any outside person would amount to abuse. I KNOW perfectly well that it is a form of self-abuse every bit as much as physical self-harming. Research, study, life experience all combine to give me not only this knowledge but the tools with which to combat it. I have successfully worked with others to stop them self-harming. Yet I am as unable to "filter out the harmful material that tries to enter" as I was before I ever became involved in the study of the mind or spirit.
So while some of the answers to your question might sound flippant, Meimeide, it is perhaps because others, too, have come to realise that learning all one can about the mind is an admirable goal - but realise that such knowledge does not always advance us?
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Romany wrote: Research, study, life experience all combine to give me not only this knowledge but the tools with which to combat it. I have successfully worked with others to stop them self-harming. Yet I am as unable to "filter out the harmful material that tries to enter" as I was before I ever became involved in the study of the mind or spirit.
Off line if you like Romany, but I'd be interested in knowing a little more about which techniques you use? If it's public, then a topic? "The voice of the majority is no proof of justice." - Schiller
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Hi, Meimeide, maybe the following page will give you some answers on that subject: www.emotional-literacy.com/
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intelfam wrote:Dreamy wrote: here are three rules to follow.
1. Do not believe everything your mind tells you. The mind can be very deceptive.
2. Be open-minded but filter out the harmful material that tries to enter.
3. Guard your mind against these four methods of control using the acronym DIMS:
D. DOMINATION I. INTIMIDATION M. MANIPULATION S. SEDUCTION
A mind that is healthy, wealthy, and wise is of great value. How to achieve this state of mind is our challenge. Valuable acronym Dreamy - is it your own? 'Cause if it is  I shall use it with due credit to you. Your no. 2 "Be open-minded but filter out the harmful material that tries to enter" gets me thinking. This is really hard to do. Would you be willing to add a (2a)? Something like, "...and ask yourself why you label it harmful ". I only ask because we may fall into a trap in initially labelling something and, having done so, sabotage ourselves from re-examining it later - to see whether the label itself were harmful. Dunno, just thinking of some folk I know who do just that and seem to throw the baby out with the bathwater? Hi intelfam, [regarding your forum name, I'm thinking "intelligent and famous" or maybe "intelligence family", although operatives don't openly admit to being part of the latter.] The DIMS acronym is my own - I use it widely in discussion groups and with individuals who have concerns about being controlled and coerced by misguided leaders, and as it is a memory device I am happy for others to benefit from its use so feel free to pass it on, no charge, intelfam. The other side of the coin is BRIGHTENS: B = Build up R = Refresh I = Inspire G = Guide H = Heal T = Teach E = Encourage N = Nurse/Nurture S = Serve I take your point about being careful what we label as harmful. It is very hard for communities and governments to reach a consensus on this. It depends on the values and ethics embraced by the majority at the time. On a personal level "One man's meat is another man's poison", so while I may rule horror movies off the menu others may habitually dine on them.
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Thank you for the info Dreamy. And for the licence to operate them. They are useful in secular as well as religious settings, which is where, I imagine, you use them most often
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intelfam wrote:
Thank you for the info Dreamy. And for the licence to operate them. They are useful in secular as well as religious settings, which is where, I imagine, you use them most often.
You are right, intelfam. The analogy to light works in both settings. I often hear from non-Christians, just in passing, about situations in which I can identify the type of control that is being used over them. As you may be aware there are many cults that claim to be of Christian intent but having seduced people to join them they then gain control of their minds with a variety of techniques. This is sometimes called programming or brain-washing. Usually the victims are conditioned not to question the leader, who is, of course perfect and infallible. The intimidation and manipulation can even include witchcraft and dark occultic forces are brought into play. People caught up in this sort of thing need sympathetic help to escape.
Job 33:15 "In a dream, in a vision of the night, When deep sleep falls upon men, In slumberings upon the bed;" Theology 101 "If He doesn't know everything then He isn't God."
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Dreamy wrote: People caught up in this sort of thing need sympathetic help to escape. You are right and it is difficult sometimes to disentangle the quite clever little circles of reasoning that appear. When I was mainstream church of England, folk talked about healing in a quite narrow way. It was, in a minority of churches, offered in the context of a formal Sunday "service" for healing (body, mind and soul). A vastly smaller number used laying on of hands in church services. I find that, in my work with mental distress in the secular world, healing has a wider definition and application among those who are distressed. And the widest gap is between the churches seeing healing in a "sickness" model, which is the one way of looking at their situation that people want to get away from. They are up to the back teeth, with having things done to them! Hopefully you are not working like that , please. "The voice of the majority is no proof of justice." - Schiller
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Intel - I just saw your post - our Summer Courses have begun here and we, also are "up to the back teeth" here. With work.
Was going to write this in a private but thought it better to make a public "disclaimer" as it were.
After I read your response and then re-read my post, I could see how anyone could be forgiven for thinking mine was some sort of disguised cry for help, or an oblique way of demanding sympathy or something else other than what it was.
The thing is: I now, at last, admit that I have led (am leading?) an extraordinary kind of life in which extraordinary things seem to happen. I often refrain from posting on certain topics because I can just imagine people thinking "Bloody 'ell, this woman must be about 140 years old to have had as many adventures and experiences as she claims".
Thing is: I have been on the move since the age of 3 weeks and so logic dictates that I have come into contact with more people, events, weird stuff, than people who live a more settled life. Also, have spent most of my life in strange places. Ergo, the things I have experienced probably amount to a whole lot more than many other people. In the context of all this, the fact that I have some personal blips - like being bi-polar - don't really count for all that much: just another thing in the long list of stuff that's my life.
The fact that I talk quite openly about my personal issues like rape, molestation, being a battered wife,homelessness, mental illness, might indeed look as though I am piling on the angst a bit. Nothing could be further from the truth.
First: I am convinced that the more people bring such things out in the open - de-mystify or 'normalise' them - the more it helps those who are suffering in silence and think they are alone in coping with such issues. I honestly don't feel any sense of shame or ebarrassment any more.
Second: I can see the sense in all of my experiences only if I find through them the opportunity to empathise with and communicate with my fellow beings on this planet.
Third: I can talk quite dispassionately about the me who went through things once they are over...by then I've often moved on so they are in a little box labelled "Papua New Guinea" or "South Africa" and taking them out and dusting them off is just like looking at old photos.
Last: - I don't play games. If I need help (as I did a while back and blatantly asked for it here on TFD) I don't approach it obliquely. I have an abhorrence of sympathy so don't have an agenda. I'm as totally matter of fact about "mind chatter" as I am about having a pimple on my chin. The fact that I often refer to what others think of as personal things is simply because it seemed apposite at the time.
OK, it might seem as though I've high-jacked this thread but I have wanted to say this for a while now, I think.
I'm really sorry if the way I express myself might, at times, cause others distress, shock or worry: it's not meant to. But I am honestly convinced that the more we bring things out in the open, discuss things people might think are taboo or shameful, the more chance there is of helping even one poor soul who might be going through stuff convinced they are utterly alone or freakish.
I have tried for most of my life to "fit in" and be ordinary. It was only last year that I finally realised that is never going to happen. We work with what we've got. That's all.
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intelfam wrote: They are up to the back teeth, with having things done to them! Hopefully you are not working like that , please.
Definitely not. I believe in the power of prayer but I steer clear of the overkill and extremes. My late mother spent the last 20 of her 82 years as a member of the Titoki Healing Centre which is a 10 acre rural retreat near Whakatane,NZ, where people with health problems can stay in a non-threatening environment. There are chapel services and prayers throughout the day and oil from the Titoki berry is used to anoint guests if they so request. It was originally developed by an Anglican Archdeacon and his wife and includes professional practitioners and consultants, but it is 11 years plus since I had any involvement with these people and am not a practicing Anglican, prefering to just be a faithful Christian of no particular denomination who attends a small Nazarene fellowship.
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Romany wrote:Intel - I just saw your post - o Was going to write this in a private but thought it better to make a public "disclaimer" as it were.
After I read your response and then re-read my post, I could see how anyone could be forgiven for thinking mine was some sort of disguised cry for help, or an oblique way of demanding sympathy or something else other than what it was.
Before I read any further, I want to say that the thought didn't cross my mind. I am of the view that we are all sabotaged from living in the present moment by "mind chatter" - see my last post under "All men are adaptives". So am interested in any tachniques/articles/research which point to ways to avoid this. Now I'll read on ...... "The voice of the majority is no proof of justice." - Schiller
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OK, Romany I have read the rest! "OK, it might seem as though I've high-jacked this thread but I have wanted to say this for a while now, I think." No probs for me in your making a statement. Perhaps I've only been around a while; perhaps I am just "blind", so I didn't notice something but I can't say I feel shocked by things you've ever said - so far ...... Thanks for sharing. "The voice of the majority is no proof of justice." - Schiller
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Intel - hope you got my PM in which I apologised for my rambling, and totally out-of-line post above.
I guess the summer heat and the increased workload etc. are getting to me: I had a bit of a brain-fart there.
Take no notice. And sorry for ganging agley.
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I am stuck trying to write a very emotional email on behalf of another person, so, I logged on to get a break. Romany, to quote you; For example: the mind chatter in my head, if applied to any outside person would amount to abuse. I KNOW perfectly well that it is a form of self-abuse every bit as much as physical self-harming. Research, study, life experience all combine to give me not only this knowledge but the tools with which to combat it. I have successfully worked with others to stop them self-harming. Yet I am as unable to "filter out the harmful material that tries to enter" as I was before I ever became involved in the study of the mind or spirit. First lesson in life, if you don't talk about it, how can others help? You know this by what I have highlighted!To continue with your next post; The thing is: I now, at last, admit that I have led (am leading?) an extraordinary kind of life in which extraordinary things seem to happen. I often refrain from posting on certain topics because I can just imagine people thinking "Bloody 'ell, this woman must be about 140 years old to have had as many adventures and experiences as she claims". I often get this reaction from people who have lived a dull, mundane life, whereas like you, I have had some very left field experiences, so, why hide it if by using it you can help others?Thing is: I have been on the move since the age of 3 weeks and so logic dictates that I have come into contact with more people, events, weird stuff, than people who live a more settled life. Also, have spent most of my life in strange places. Ergo, the things I have experienced probably amount to a whole lot more than many other people. In the context of all this, the fact that I have some personal blips - like being bi-polar - don't really count for all that much: just another thing in the long list of stuff that's my life. The fact that I talk quite openly about my personal issues like rape, molestation, being a battered wife,homelessness, mental illness, might indeed look as though I am piling on the angst a bit. Nothing could be further from the truth. You do not need to justify what you say as anybody with an ounce of common sense and intelligence can see that you are genuine. First: I am convinced that the more people bring such things out in the open - de-mystify or 'normalise' them - the more it helps those who are suffering in silence and think they are alone in coping with such issues. I honestly don't feel any sense of shame or ebarrassment any more. Exactly, this is what I highlighted from your first post!Second: I can see the sense in all of my experiences only if I find through them the opportunity to empathise with and communicate with my fellow beings on this planet. Third: I can talk quite dispassionately about the me who went through things once they are over...by then I've often moved on so they are in a little box labelled "Papua New Guinea" or "South Africa" and taking them out and dusting them off is just like looking at old photos. Last: - I don't play games. If I need help (as I did a while back and blatantly asked for it here on TFD) I don't approach it obliquely. I have an abhorrence of sympathy so don't have an agenda.What is wrong with sympathy, we all need some at some stages in our lives. It is condescension that I cannot abide. I'm as totally matter of fact about "mind chatter" as I am about having a pimple on my chin. The fact that I often refer to what others think of as personal things is simply because it seemed apposite at the time. OK, it might seem as though I've high-jacked this thread but I have wanted to say this for a while now, I think. I'm really sorry if the way I express myself might, at times, cause others distress, shock or worry: it's not meant to. But I am honestly convinced that the more we bring things out in the open, discuss things people might think are taboo or shameful, the more chance there is of helping even one poor soul who might be going through stuff convinced they are utterly alone or freakish.Again, I applaud the honesty and the reality of this statement You have never shocked or offended me, nothing to apologise for. All readers should put themselves in the posters shoes so as to get the correct context! I have tried for most of my life to "fit in" and be ordinary. It was only last year that I finally realised that is never going to happen. We work with what we've got. That's all.That is all any of us can do, and , if I may say so, you make a remarkable contribution to this forum.I had a bit of a brain-fart there.All 'sounded' good from what I read.
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Ray - How very kind of you to post all this. I was feeling I'd made a big fool of myself, but now I know that at least two people are getting what I wrote, in the spirit in which it was written, I don't feel like quite such a muppet.
I really treaure your post and shall read it again a little later when I am at home. It made my day.
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I have been involved in heated debates, discussions, and disagreements about anything and everything in life from religion and politics to things as simple as one's perception of fun. The most rewarding moments are when we can walk away from the meeting and grab a soda, an ice cream, or a glass of wine together and agree to share a laugh.
Is "deciphering of the mind" actually an ongoing process versus a task that requires completion? Thomas Moore writes of dream therapy in Jungian psychology: Are our dreams meant for us to figure out, or are our dreams the figuring out process of reality itself? (paraphrased)
So, I would enjoy my life at every breathing moment, and yes I would reflect on my life as well. I wouldn't reflect so much to try to understand or make sense of things; but to acknowledge that the world around me--the people, nature, spirituality, and even the material things--are worth considering when wondering about the purpose of my existence.
At that, I may be forced to consider whether "deciphering of the mind" is a healthy activity that replaces any negative emotions that bring rise to solipsism. Unlike loneliness, wouldn't that offer some reasoning to solitude and serenity? Once we get to a point of understanding in a quiet moment; we don't really need to understand, right?
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Thinking...appeal your fame...appeal your fame... the appeal of fame...appeal to fame...unpeel your fame...now that appeals to reason does it not?
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I FEEL YOUR PAIN. The epitome of understanding!
Only sometimes, it takes two glasses of wine.
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Good, down to earth stuff Ray41  (BTW I hope you got that email sorted. I am a bit like Romany in not wanting sympathy Ray41. Don't know why she doesn't but, for me the word means all that "Come here and let me hug you, mummy-make-it-all-better" sort of stuff. I s'pose it depends on the person. I prefer empathy which again, I define as "Shit man, that's bad" line. Some folk, seeing distress, can't resist "rescuing", trying to make things better, which I find, for me, is dis-empowering and patronising (?matronising?). It's like saying; you've had a bad time and on top of that you aren't capable of sorting it out Stand aside while I do it - aren't you useless? All a matter of personal history/experience. Hope the OP is still watching - maybe when they understand the human mind they'll tell me why I react like that - probably the potty training ... "The voice of the majority is no proof of justice." - Schiller
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Hi intel, Yes I did get email sorted, my mother passed away in January, and my wife's mother passed away last Saturday, and, it seems that I am the one who is looked to, to inform all the people involved, of these sad events. I suppose that because of the current circumstances I perceive 'sympathy' in several forms. If people were not sympathetic, then, who would care at times like this. That is why I said, 'It is condescension that I cannot abide'. If we don't have empathy, which is what I also prefer, as it means more 'to give of oneself than receive', then we would be a hard lot of old buggers. The world could do with a lot more people who not only recognise the need for empathy, but, also know how to exercise it in a practical way.[That doesn't read quite right, was thinking more along the lines of those who financially/materially/physically support organisations for the victims of natural disasters,etc.] I would put those who you put as, 'Some folk, seeing distress, can't resist "rescuing", trying to make things better, which I find, for me, is dis-empowering and patronising (?matronising?). It's like saying; you've had a bad time and on top of that you aren't capable of sorting it out Stand aside while I do it - aren't you useless? as the condescending type! We all should be able to retain our dignity, no matter what the circumstance. Re; potty training, I found it only served until I was accomplished at performing the task without supervision. I am now just 'potty' which took absolutely no training at all, it has snuck up on me as I have got older, As to deciphering the human mind, well, the attributes of your mind are a combination of genetics, environment, education, training and experiences. We are all individuals so there are a lot of minds to decipher, none being identical. If the OP intends to embark on this quest, then first he has to start with him/herself, so it is appropriate to insert  here.
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