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money143
Posted: Thursday, October 20, 2016 5:27:50 PM

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Hi everyone, I would like to know does everyone have secret thoughts? If yes, what is your idea of secret thoughts? Are they helpful or destructible?

Thanks in advance.

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Blodybeef
Posted: Friday, October 21, 2016 12:49:47 AM

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Life would be very simple and easy without people having secret thoughts. But if you knew a person well enough, you'd be guessing their secret thoughts, sometimes correctly.

Even toddlers have secret thoughts. They spill them out somehow, and parents do understand them even from the way their children stands.

“Integrity is doing the right thing, even when no one is watching." ― C.S. Lewis
Shulamit
Posted: Sunday, October 23, 2016 4:55:08 PM

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Secret thoughts are part of what makes us human, if I am understanding your definition of a secret thought.

I can only speak for myself, but my brain isn't ever running on idle. I have thoughts going through my head all the time. Even when I'm asleep, the wheels and the gears are spinning and connecting. Secret thoughts, as opposed to that unspoken stream of cognitive (and quasi-cognitive) thinking, are usually fairly well formed thoughts, ideas, visions, et al., that we do not share with others. That's sort of the definition of secret.

There are a lot of reasons not to share them. Sometimes they are embarrassing, sometimes, we don't even know where they come from, as they've launched themselves in our minds unbidden, and we don't want even to be near them. Some of them are ugly, or don't subscribe to our own moral and ethical codes, but are our passing thoughts, nonetheless. Frequently, or at least for me, the germ of ideas, unformed logical or inspirational sequences, are not to be shared because they're not finished yet and I don't want to break my uninterrupted process. Another reason would be that we'd like to disown the secret thoughts and not be identified with them. I'm sure there are more reasons.

When you ask if they are helpful, of course my answer would be, yes. Even if they are those awful passing thoughts that arrive from Lord-only-knows where and deeply disturb us, they are at least instructive in that they remind us of who we are by jarring us with who we are not. Many secret thoughts are wonderful and just aren't to be shared. We all have private selves (OR, note to my family of origin: we should be allowed to have private selves).

The last word of that last sentence of yours is maybe a typo or a word used incorrectly? "Destructible", means capable of being destroyed. Did you mean that? If you did, I don't think you can destroy a thought, though if you leave them alone and don't worry them a lot, they fade and disappear. But if you meant, "destructive," (destroys things), as I said, in my opinion, secret thoughts don't have to be destructive at all.

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money143
Posted: Thursday, October 27, 2016 6:35:52 PM

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Hi Shulamit,

Thanks for your amazing response.

I read a quote somewhere it said 'you are your secret thoughts', hence the curiosity.

Yes and sorry about the typo I meant to say destructive thoughts (if they have capabilities to destroy things) and yes they do have in my opinion, because thoughts become things unless you learn to control them through meditation.


What you give power to, has power over you.
Shulamit
Posted: Thursday, November 03, 2016 2:21:46 AM

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Thank you emensely for your, "Thank you".

I agree completely that secret thoughts can be destructive.

Do you know that inner critic, the one that derides you, chastises you for your behavior, beats you about the heart and soul for your awful awful inexcusable inadequacies, sneers at your attempts, drills you for your failures and dismisses your successes? Yes, that inner voice, the harping kamikazi who interrupts your inspirations, your plans and decisions with, "You're wrong! You're not good enough to do that, and besides, no one likes you!" And then it keeps reminding you about all your humiliating defeats.

Sounds like I'm all too familiar with that nasty little voice, doesn't it.

To one extent or another, we all have inner voices. Some of them are helpful guides,whispering sages, a conscience who acts as a best friend. Yeah, but SOME of those inner voices can be life crushing villains. We don't tell others about those secret thoughts. Those are as self-destructive as secret thoughts can get.

So, yes, I agree with you. (Now I'd best shove that thing back in its cell).

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